EU nationals in the UK - Where is 'Home'?

“Brexit feels like a rejection of what is different, and the indifference of a vast proportion of the population suggests their complicity.”

Simon (England and Spain)

Home is a difficult concept for me as it has always moved. Madrid has always been my home as it is the only place I have consistently returned to and felt like I belonged and was accepted. In the UK I have always felt like an outsider, even though I was born in the UK, lived here for 20 years on and off and hold UK nationality since birth. My mother is Spanish and my father is from the UK.
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I grew up in Croydon, and whilst part of me considers it home, it is also an inhospitable dormitory town which I would hesitate to call my home when I compare it to Madrid. I have never felt of London as home, but rather as a distant and exorbitantly priced dream which is both exhilarating and stressful to visit or work in. I currently live in Nottingham, purely for work reasons. Whilst I like the town, it can only ever be a temporary home for me.
The referendum result has done nothing but drive this home to me. When I returned to the UK from Spain at age 13 I was bullied as the Spanish kid, even though I was English, looked English and spoke fluent English. And yet, I was different. My difference has never been a positive thing to society in general, only to a few who appreciate difference, who are not blinkered.

To me, Brexit feels like that all over again, a rejection of what is different, and the indifference of a vast proportion of the population to the increasingly xenophobic and fascist actions of this government suggest their complicity.

I may yet have to live in the UK for many years, but it feels like it will never be my home because it will never make me feel safe.

Gabriela (Romania)

I suppose that for me ‘home’ means that place where you always know that you can return to and feel safe and happy. The place where you feel most comfortable to put roots down, but also make plans for the future without fear.

It’s also about the people around you and the opportunities you have. It’s about feeling that you are valued and that you make a difference in other people’s lives. All in all, it’s that one place where you feel complete, but it doesn’t have to be linked to one geographical location for the rest of your life. ‘Home’ is a mutable reality.
After Brexit the concept itself hasn’t changed, but what has changed is my perception of the UK as a potential home. Brexit happened at a time in my life when I felt I was finally settling down, and changed everything. These days, the country feels more like a place of transit mainly because of all the uncertainty surrounding us EU nationals.
Even though quite a few people around me tell me that I shouldn’t worry because I’m one of the ‘good immigrants’, somehow it doesn’t really make me feel any better. I suppose it’s more a matter of principle than my actual situation here. I am not sure I feel entirely comfortable with the idea that I would always be tolerated, but never integrated.